Single men (gay, bisexual, and curious men) use a mobile application called Grindr to make new connections. Sometimes these exchanges lead to friendships, dates, and romance; but more often than not, they lead nowhere. The conversations, shrouded in anonymity, are sometimes shocking and rude. Over the course of a week the following was tracked: incoming messages, Ryan’s response rates, types of men, age groups, number of crotch shots, and common reasons that prevented Ryan from replying. What resulted is a flow chart of what it takes to get a date with Ryan.